“Neither of us felt ambushed. Our therapist kept the pace slow enough that we could finish a sentence.”
Camryn L.
Couples therapy in Portland
Slow the argument down. Take the time to be heard.
Therapy for couples, married or not. Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method, in sessions of 50 or 80 minutes.
- Emotionally Focused Therapy, ICEEFT
- Gottman Method, Gottman Institute
- Couples sessions of 50 or 80 minutes
- Married or not
- Discernment counseling
- Premarital sessions
- Individual sessions of 50 minutes
Our practice
Two people, and the pattern between them
Most couples who come in are not short on love. They are stuck in a loop: one reaches, the other steps back, and the same argument returns in a new outfit. In session we slow the loop down, name what each of you is protecting, and practice another response, with a therapist who stays fair to both of you.
“We work with the pattern between you, not against either of you.”
Services
How we can help
Sessions for couples, and for one partner when it helps.
Couples therapy
Slow the conflict down, hear what is underneath it and practice a different way to reach for each other.
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Premarital sessions
Talk through money, family and roles before you commit, with a therapist who asks the questions.
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Individual sessions
One-on-one time about the relationship, alongside couples work or when your partner is not ready.
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Discernment counseling
A short, structured set of sessions for partners who are unsure whether to stay.
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How it works
Your path forward
A simple process, from the first message to ongoing sessions.
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Step 1: Reach out
Send a message and we will reply to set up a short call about fit.
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Step 2: First session
You and your therapist talk about what brought you in and what each of you wants from the work.
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Step 3: Your plan
Together you agree what to work on and how often to meet. Your therapist sets the pace with you.
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Step 4: Check-ins
Every few sessions you look at what is working and change course if it is not.
What clients say about the room
“I expected to be told who was right. She kept asking what the argument meant to each of us.”
Akeem B.“The room felt calm and nobody rushed us. We left each session knowing what to try at home.”
Noor H.“The longer session gave us time to stop, breathe and start again.”
Megan D.
Sample reviews.
Meet your therapists
Three therapists who see couples in person in Portland.
Warm, steady couples sessions that slow a conflict down until each person can be heard.
Jens Zalewski
Licensed marriage and family therapist
- Licensed marriage and family therapist · OR Lic. 000000
Emotionally Focused Therapy for partners who want to understand the cycle they keep repeating.
Couples and premarital sessions with a focus on how partners decide things together.
50 min
Individual sessions80 min
Couples sessions, when you want more timeIn writing
Your fee, before you start
Ready to take the first step?
Send a message and we will set up a short call to see which therapist fits. Sessions are 50 or 80 minutes.
Start a conversation
Send a message and we will reply within a few working days. A fit call is 15 minutes about whether we are the right match. It is not therapy, an evaluation or an assessment.