Jens Zalewski
Licensed marriage and family therapist
A calm room to understand the cycle you keep repeating, and to try a different move.
Jens sees couples of every kind, married or not, and partners who come on their own. He is direct and patient, and he will interrupt a familiar argument to ask what each of you was feeling just before it started.
His work is shaped by Emotionally Focused Therapy and by the view that family, culture and history all shape how people reach for each other.
Education and training
Master's degree in marriage and family therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy training, ICEEFT
Licensed marriage and family therapist · OR Lic. 000000
How I work
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy to map the cycle between you: who reaches, who pulls back, and what each move is protecting. Then we practice reaching for each other differently. We go at the pace you set with me.
Areas of focus
Pursue and withdraw
Understanding the loop where one of you reaches and the other steps back.
Closeness and distance
Talking about what each of you needs to feel connected.
Family and culture
How the families you came from shape the one you are building.
Partners who come alone
Individual sessions for one partner, when the other is not ready.